Preventing Etiquette Offenses

Bride's magazine reveals 13 unforgivable wedding mistakes. Here's how to prevent some nuptial no-nos:

• Don't make your guests wait too long in between with no place to go.
• Send all your guests, and their dates, invitations by name. Everyone will feel included if you mail personally addressed invites to all - no "And Guest."
• Tuxedos should be worn only for evening weddings. Morning coats, cutaways or navy blazers should be chosen for daytime weddings.
• Pet participants should wear a leash or collar, not an ensemble. If he takes part in your ceremony, consider Fido's comfort and skip the doggie attire.
• Never have a cash bar at a wedding. Offering fewer choices is perfectly acceptable. Asking guests to pay is not.
• Skip the X-rated garter removal. Spare everyone the embarrassment of a tacky show by keeping this tradition clean.
• Don't lose face by smashing cake. Bride and groom should use a plate and fork when they share their first bite.
• Tasteless toasts. Books for speakers offer guidelines for what is appropriate. A three-minute time limit also works well.
• No smoking. Cigarettes ruin bride's radiance, and too many smoking breaks take you away from your guests. So kick the habit and enjoy the party.
• Foot loose. Unless your wedding is on the beach, brides do not go barefoot. Choose comfortable shoes and break them in before the big day.
• Drink to others, not yourself. For toasts made in your honor, raise your glass then place it back on the table. For toasts honoring others, take a sip.
• Don't let the DJ steal the show. Musicians should pace the party and blend into the background so that the bride and groom can shine.
• Limit multimedia tributes to 10 minutes. Videos and slide shows should be kept short and sweet, offering brief highlights from infancy to courtship. (CNS)